The Science of Cumming: Diving deep into what gets us off

We have our lab coats on today, honey!🤓📋...It’s time to get down to one of our favorite subjects, “ourselves”. The data is exuberant so let’s start breaking down the factors that get us to the point. From knowing how and why our body climaxes, to where the pleasure zones are located, and what extra factors can assist in creating the most enjoyable experience. Your friend V is here to provide you with the tools to double your pleasure, V fam!  

 

The Ins & Outs of your Oohs and Aahs

Let’s break it down shall we? So there’s an actual anatomy to your Orgasm. Yes friends, your cumming is even more complex than you thought it was! Researchers  Master and Johnson’s Four-Phase Model details the different components to the cum.

  • Excitement: Blood vessels within the genitals dilate, increasing blood supply causing the vulva to swell and fluid to pass through the vaginal walls (WAP), the top of the vagina expands (to receive sperm).

  • Plateau: Blood flow reaches its limit and the lower area of the vagina becomes firm (tightening around whatever is inside of it😊) the clitoris pulls back against the pubic bone.

  • Orgasm: The genital muscles experience rhythmic contractions (in an attempt to retain sperm) for anywhere from 13-51 seconds.

  • Resolution: The body gradually returns to its former state and recovers, and the female body is ready to do it all over again!
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    All sex researchers define orgasms within staged models of sexual response. Which means, although orgasms may feel different to different people, these are the phases we all experience throughout the climax.

    Orgasms and Pregnancy:

    Don’t think we forgot about you mamas! The uterine contractions that occur during orgasms help propel sperm into the cervix. Meaning your chances of pregnancy go up if you climax!

     

    Right there, right there...finding the right spots

    You know how highly favored we are vulva owners? We got OPTIONS! Yes honey, there’s at least two ways for us to reach that ultimate pleasure, clitoral or vaginally. Although some would debate, in the end, both results are one in the same - an orgasm. Clitoral stimulation can happen through the vaginal walls during sex or through manual outer stimulation. Believers of the vaginal orgasm claim that the G spot is the key to achieving them.  

    Whether you prefer vaginal stimulation, clitoral stimulation, or BOTH! Educate yourself and your partner(s) on what brings you to that ultimate feeling. With the possibility of options, this makes that cum so much more fulfilling.

    If this was new then we probably just made things more difficult for your partner, if this is news! But don’t worry, check below for guidance. 

    Finding your spot and going inside the cum:

    Whether this is a joint venture or solo mission, it's about the vibe… Set the mood, make sure all of your senses are engaged, create a comfortable ambience and let’s find that spot.

    What is the G Spot?

    The “Grafenberg spot”, is named after Ernst Gräfenberg, a German-born physician and scientist. He is known for developing the intra-uterine device, and for his studies of the role of the woman's urethra in orgasm. Dr. Beverly Whipple introduced the “G spot”, upon discovering that a “come here” motion along the inside of the vagina produced a physical response in women. This is not an actual anatomical part, rather it’s a group of nerves inside your clitoral network. Therefore when the “G” spot is stimulated so is the clitoris.


    What is the Clitoris?

    The pea-sized nub we know as the clitoris, is really only the tip of it. It continues into two roots about four inches long that go into the vagina. The specific location is different for different people, but upon being aroused it will swell and a rocking motion against it will cause ejaculation.

     

    It’s all in the technique, getting what you please 

    The Betty Dodson method uses a “Rock and Roll” technique to achieve orgasm by targeting these spots.   

    Follow these steps:

    1. Lie on your back with your legs bent hip distance apart.
    2. Rock your pelvis forward toward your belly button and away from it, squeezing and relaxing your PC muscle at the same time.
    3. Breathe in while you rock forward and squeeze
    4. Breathe out while you release and bring the pelvis back to the ground

    You can use an object for penetration to tighten around, Betty recommends starting with a peeled carrot or zucchini and working your way up through the vegetables! While doing these steps, add clitoral stimulation by oil on finger manually (again start slowly), then gradually add in stimulation with a vibrator by increasing the settings over time.

     

    The Sum of the Cum


    E = mc² [Experiences = More Cum x 2 😜]...Seriously though, knowing how your body climaxes + how to reach that climax = the most enjoyable experience. When climaxing your brain releases a neurochemical called dopamine, a hormone that is responsible for feelings of pleasure, desire, and motivation.

    No matter how you choose to do it, self love is the best love! Remember you are a complex being, and knowing how to educate yourself and your partner(s), on what you need and how you need it is the ultimate way to connect... have the conversation. Most importantly just lay back, relax, and enjoy! 😌

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